He's just not that into you!!

I have decided that there's only so far a girl can go making excuses for a relationship not going well. And I refuse to believe that meeting a guy for lunch or dinner once a week and maybe staying the night, interspersed with zero phone calls but frequent texting constitutes a relationship going well! I have more contact with my friends, and I'm not sleeping with any of them!!

When we had 'the talk' about what this could possibly be, I was buoyed by the fact that he said he wasn't looking at this to be a fling. Now on further reflection, I'm inclined to believe that all that implied was that he won't be sleeping with anyone else. Accompanied with this statement came none of the things that you would normally see in a relationship - primarily, a desire to see more of each other!

And I absolutely refuse to put this down to cultural differences either. No matter which part of the globe you come from, if you like someone, you're going to want to spend as much time as you can with them, you're going to want to meet for a quick cup of coffee, go catch a movie, pick up the phone and call just to hear her voice and say hi, make plans to go out together, meet each others friends.. something!!.. and definitely not make your own separate plans, with your own friends to go to the same place!

And there's also only so much that I can put down to being reserved or even fiercely independent. Even those things tend to lessen in intensity if it's for someone you feel something for.

And finally, it does take a lot out of you too, for as much as I don't know him, because truth be told he just doesn't let me in.. he doesn't know me either, because he won't let me show him. It's very difficult to be yourself with a person when they won't show you who they are. He once described me as intelligent, interesting and beautiful. I am all of those things..:) and I was flattered that he thought so, but I'm also so much more. I'm quirky and affectionate, and clumsy and sometimes silly, I walk into things and like to go out and go nuts, I'm a slob in the morning, and usually clean compulsively at night. There's so much more to me than he sees, partly because I don't know how it will be received, and partly because we just don't spend enough time with each other for him to discover it on his own.

All things considered, I wonder if I should swallow that bitter pill that's liberated women the world over... Alright ladies, say it for me then... "He's just not that into you...!! "