Regress To Advance

There are certain things happening in my life, that involve someone else as well, and I would like nothing more than to write about it all here, in my blog, but I'm not very sure how acceptable that would be for the afore mentioned person. So let me try and be discreet, and write about it in the vaguest possible terms.
I'm in the city, and I've begun giving some thought to whether or not this guy and I have anything in common to make things work. We have the best time, we enjoy each others company and i don't think we're ever bored with each other, even if we're sitting around watching the television. But on the other hand, we argue a lot, mostly at the end of every night; we seem to have our own baggage and hang ups about the other person, and we seem to different from who we were and what we once wanted.
We seem to be always caught in this crossfire of who said what, who's changed how, who did what.. it's a battlefield of emotions, and pride and ego seem to winning.
It makes me wonder why it comes to this... We both seem to obviously want this to work, we're willing to go above and beyond to make it happen, so why do we seem intent on sabotaging it before it's had a chance to take off?? People say that ex's can't be friends. I always thought that we disproved that rule.. but maybe it is true because a true friendship will touch upon many things in your life, including your sexual exploits. And when you're looking to rekindle that flame, you're going into it with the knowledge of your previous decisions, previous flings and your previous mistakes... And the thought of all of this being possibly held up to scrutiny makes you cringe a little, get a little defensive, a little rude, a little aggressive... a little painful..:)
And it's tough to resist the temptation to flip the coin... while you may not want to be questioned yourself, you're just burning up with questions about what he 's been up to all this time... who did he see, who did he sleep with, who did he like, who did he go where with.. did he find someone better than me??... That is actually the ultimate question.. I don't think women who ask these questions really care what you did or where you went... we may care a little about who you did it with.. (especially if we know her)... but what we're really after is, 'did you find someone who compares with me'...
When people break up, they do a lot of different things to cope with it... and I'm not talking about something like binge drinking and retail therapy... that's short lived and expensive.. I'm thinking about the changes that people make in their lives so that they get up in the morning, get dressed, smile at themselves in the mirror and move on..
Some people use it as a wake up call to make the changes that they think need to be made in their lives, do the things that they wanted to do, some people bury their feelings and bury themselves, some people move on to have a relationship with their work place... whatever it may be that will help them move on.. So when you're on the threshold of a new relationship, you're pretty much messed up the way you are.. so what do you do?
I think you did what you had to do to move on, now something better is knocking at your door....don't blow it just because you've been an emotional wreck for the last two years, or you've shut down so much you're pretty much a vault, or you cleaned your apartment twelve times in seven days, so you're borderline OCD...!!... I say embrace life, thaw out, keep the good that's in you, keep the experience... but also allow your experience to help you recognize a good thing when you see it... and just go for it!... You can't spend the rest of your life looking back.. whether it's in remembrance of something that's now over or by clinging on to the breakup you...Maybe the second time around won't be markedly different, after all, we are still the same two people.. but it will be different..and what's in the past is in the past.. and who knows what the future will bring...